Adventure Is Out There!

I’m back!!! I know, I know; it’s been a bloody long time but I swear I’m back now and a hell of a lot has changed and loads more is on the horizon.


So what has changed since we last spoke? Well for starters I’ve got a degree now! Well I haven’t actually had my gradation ceremony yet but I got my final grades back. I got a 2:2, ending up with 58% overall. Considering how crappy my mental health has been over these past few years I am amazed I made it through. So woo go me, I’m a Creative Writing graduate from Falmouth University.

While we are on the subject of university I also had a very busy February; I ran in the student union elections. I ran for the position of Community and Welfare President. Although I didn’t win (I came 3rd out of 7), I had the most amazing week. I met so many people and my confidence sky rocketed! It was such a hectic and busy week but I’m so glad I did it, the experience I gained from standing is something I am so grateful for. I also got to spend a lot of time with some of my best friends who helped out on my campaign team, so that’s a bonus. And any job interview I ever go to in the future will be a doddle compared to trying to win over thousands of students!


Another thing; I’m polyamorous, woo! If you don’t know what polyamory is then here’s a little run down; basically polyamory is the practice of loving/having relationships with more than one person. There are so many different relationship structures that fit into polyamory and every polyamorous relationship is different, so I can only really speak from my experience. I have a boyfriend and a girlfriend who are both dating me, but not dating each other, although they are very good friends. Both relationships are very different and I am so happy with how everything is going. The relationships are also both pretty open meaning we can all have sexual/romantic relationships and experiences outside of the relationship. Communication is key when it comes to polyamory. You need to keep a constant, healthy dialogue going to make sure everyone is comfortable and happy.


Smaller change but I also shaved half my hair off. It just felt like time for a change, something bold. On Halloween I was out with some friends and I was talking about wanting to change my hair up and one of my friends suggested a Natalie Dormer style situation and boom, a few days later I marched into the hairdressers and got it done. I freaking love my hair like this. I was so worried I was going to regret it but I haven’t so far and it’s been over half a year.

I feel like this hair cut was what triggered all this change in my life. I know that sounds kinda silly but hear me out. This hair cut was such a bold move, something no one saw coming. It gave me some freedom from what was expected of me meaning I could do some soul searching and figure out who I truly was and what I wanted. It made me look at my life and see what changes needed to be made. Since getting this hair cut I have been taking less bullshit and instead living my life how I want.


So what’s next? For now I’m mainly looking for a job and figuring what my living situation is going to be when my house contract ends in a month. I don’t really have a big grand plan. I thought I would have it all figured out by now, but I really fucking don’t! I’m applying for jobs that look interesting and pay well. After I leave my student house I’m gonna be doing some couch surfing between friends and family. It’s kinda scary not having a plan but I’m choosing to see it as an adventure and I’m sure some great writing inspiration will come from it. I’m feeling very much like the lost 20-something year old I am but it’s pretty exciting. For the first time in my life I don’t know where I’m heading next, I could do anything. It’s a strange mix of fear and wonder.

However now I’m done with uni I have so much free time to write on here. I have so many things I want to write about; bullet journaling, polyamory, surviving uni for example. I also want to document my time as a post-grad, figuring out my place in the world. I know a lot of people write about that but hey, everyone’s story is different. I also still have a bunch of work from my time at uni that I really want to share with you so look out for that.

I know this isn’t the first time I’ve abandoned this blog then come back with a big post but please stick with me! I promise there is much more coming up. I have so much I want to say and hopefully some people out there want to listen to me. I’m going to try to update the blog at least once a week but maybe more.

Thank you for reading this pretty self indulgent post and I hope you are having a fabulous day!



No longer a teenage dirtbag… just a regular dirtbag…

In September I am turning twenty. I said it. Turning twenty is scaring the shit out of me to be blunt about it. It is a grown up number. If I do something stupid I can’t just say “oh well, I’m a teenager!”, well I could but it would be a lie.

I hadn’t really been thinking about my birthday until one of my flatmates turned twenty. He wrote a bucket list of things he wanted to do before he turned. I can’t remember many of the things on there but I know drinking cider for breakfast was one there somewhere (in my mind a festival-only activity). It got me thinking maybe I should write my own list? Not so much a bucket list just twenty things to do before twenty. People do these sorts of lists all the time so why no join them? I’m a real list person and find them to be very motivating. Somehow seeing something written down solidifies it, doubly so if you are writing it on a public blog for all to see (hello there ;-)).

The summer before I turn twenty is also particularly significant as it will be my first summer living away from home. Me, my boyfriend and a few friends from uni are moving into our own place in July. It’s super close to the beach so lots of fun can be had there! Anyway on to the list:

Twenty Before Twenty

1: Go skinny dipping

2: Go for a jog around Swanpool (hopefully regularly)

3: Host some sort of house warming party

4: Have a sleepover with Jenny (my little sister)

5: Dance in the pouring rain

6: Read Alice in Wonderland 

7: Learn another song on ukulele

8: Get a hair wrap/braid (I have wanted one of those since I was tiny!)

9: Have a water fight

10: Watch the sun rise

11: Watch the sun set (both on the beach)

12: Have a Harry Potter marathon

13: Stop biting my freaking nails! I wanna put glitter polish on them gosh darn it!

14: Cook at least 5 recipes from my recipe book

15: Take a ferry ride, like when I was younger

16: Write positive things on sticky notes and leave them in places to make people smile

17: Take a photo everyday

18: Complete Rainbow Road on Mario Cart for the game cube without falling off (dun dun duuuuunn!

19: Wear cat ears more often than not

20: Smile, a lot.

Some of the things on my list seem a little silly. Hopefully I will do all of them although in all seriousness I think the Rainbow Road one will be the hardest! People, have you played that track? It’s killer I tell you!

Wish me luck on my journey, roll on July so it can begin!

Toodles x