Fuck Flattering

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Hi, my names Emma and I really don’t give a fuck anymore about anyone’s opinions on my body or the way I dress. I spent years of my life lusting over sexy body-con dresses, sultry pencil skirts and summer crop tops. I sometimes tried them on but took one look in the mirror and ripped them straight back off again (carefully of course, I mean I’m not into destroying shop property). Even though I really liked the clothes and often loved how they made me feel I looked in the mirror and all I could see was my lumps and bumps. Those lumps and bumps that I had been told consistently though my life to hide away by the media. Being curvy was fine, as long as you knew how to dress your body aka as long as you knew how to cover up the parts of you that were offensive to western beauty ideals. But then this dress came along…

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I was out shopping for new clothes to take with my to Download festival and I came across this dress in NewLook. There was pretty much nothing else I liked in the shop so I decided to take a chance and try it on. I was anxious- bodycon and stripes! Two of the things curvy girls are told to avoid like the plague. But I tried it on and I liked it. Actually I loved it. It was super comfy, I knew it wouldn’t fly up on the wind and most importantly I loved how my body looked in it. I stepped out into the corridor of the changing room so I could get a better look in the bigger mirror. For some unknown reason I asked another woman who just so happened to be in the changing room at the time what she thought of the dress and then came the dreaded words “I do like it but I honestly don’t think it’s very flattering on you”. I know the lady didn’t mean any harm and I did ask for her opinion but it still stung. Luckily I acted against what she said and went for it, I brought the goddamn dress and wore it to Download and felt bloody amazing.

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And so my love affair with clingy clothes and my lumpy body began. I wear what I want when I want. I’m done with asking other peoples opinions. If I like it then that’s all that matters. Fuck flattering, fuck size appropriate, fuck too revealing, fuck too short, fuck too busy. And I never ever bother with shape wear. If you want to wear it then cool, you do you, but I am so fed up of this idea that we need to smooth out our lumps and bumps to be entitled to wear form fitting clothes. I’m done hiding my shape and I’m done caring what flatters it. As long as I’m comfortable and happy then that’s what matters. Who’s with me?!

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Toodles!

Pamper Yourself!

Hello people! I am writing this snuggled up in bed rocking my fluffy leopard dressing gown and knee high stripy socks because I am ill. Great timing Emma, it’s not like you just started uni or anything. Oh well, I have been resting and trying to make myself better. Today I decided to treat myself to a bit of a pamper sesh. When you are ill a lovely long shower or bath can do you the world of good.

I thought I would share some of my favourite pamper products with you. Some of them are pretty standard and cheap whereas others are a bit more of an indulgence so there should be something for everyone!

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Original Source shower gels are absolutely amazing! I love every single one of their different scents however the Vanilla and Raspberry and Raspberry and Cocoa are my current two favourites. Usually priced at about £2.29. Right now they are only 99p each on the Superdrug website which rocks! They lather up really well and make your skin so soft. They are packed with natural fragrances which leaves you and your bathroom smelling heavenly.

 

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Superdrug’s Revitalising Raspberry & Macadamia Nut Shampoo and Conditioner makes my hair so soft and silky. They help maintain the vibrancy of my coloured hair which means I can go longer between dyes. The sweet scent really hangs around in your hair which is lovely when you swish it around. These retail at £1.99 but they often have buy one get one free offers.

10580206-1324463975-484790Whilst on the subject of hair care I’d like to introduce you to one of my favourite products Alterna Bamboo Colour Protection Fade Proof Fluide (bit of a mouthful I know!). I just smooth a few pumps of this through my towel dried hair and it leaves it amazingly shiny. I feel it really helps add strength and retain colour as well. It also has UV protection which is a bonus. This is more of an indulgent product. I found it on Amazon for £12.99 for 3.4oz which seems pretty steep but it really does last for ages.

8840156643358Now on to some body love. This Cherry and Macadamia Body Butter is so rich and smooth you just want to spread it on toast and eat it! It smells like divine yoghurt or something, nom! I love strong scents and this definitely fits the bill. It moisturises beautifully and soaks into the skin really nicely. At £3.99 for a pretty big tub I would say it’s very good value for money as a little goes a long way.

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Could you guess a Lush product was gonna sneak it’s way in here? Trust me, there’s more coming up! Tender Is The Night has an incredibly romantic, sensual scent. Full of vanilla, ylang ylang oil and my favourite ever smell- jasmine, it is my perfect blend of fragrances. Lush massage bars are designed to melt with heat, so as you rub them over you they release lovely moisturising butters and oils all over your warm skin. I also love the look of this bar, the cute little pink flower on the top just adds that touch of loveliness. Priced at £6.50 I consider them to be a bit of a treat, but we all deserve a treat every now and then!

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Lush’s Bubblegum Lip Scrub is perfect for the colder months. It works really well to gently buff dry, chapped lips. The caster sugar does the buffing while the organic jojoba oil moisturises. The best thing about it though has to be it’s sweetshop taste! After scrubbing away you lick off the sugary goodness- yummy! A 25g pot comes in at £5.50 which for such a great product isn’t bad.

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I like to finish treating my lips with a dab of Honey Trap lip balm. This is the only thing that has ever really worked for my dry winter lips. It’s super moisturising and tastes like honey and white chocolate! It costs £5.75 for a little tin which lasts forever. I got a tin just under a year ago and even with daily use I still have about half left. One thing I will say is be careful with the lid, I put mine of wonky once then spent half an hour bashing the tin to try and get it off again!

 

What to know something super cool about all of those products? They are all cruelty free! None of them have been tested on animals, yay!

 

lemon_ginger_20_etb_angle_2I’ve added this Lemon and Ginger Twinings infusion at the end of this list because it is my favourite drink when I am ill. I can’t stand Lemsip so when I have a cold I turn to this instead. If you leave it to brew for ages (10 mins) then it’s lovely steam really helps clear a blocked system. Also ginger is really good for settling an upset tummy. Basically this drink is a lifesaver! A box of 20 bags costs between £1 and £1.50.

I hope you like the look of some of my favourite pamper products. I think it’s really important to indulge in some pamper time, even if you aren’t ill. It’s good for the soul. I try to pamper myself fully at least once a week because it really boosts my mood and confidence. It’s part of my radical self love practice.

I hope you are all happy and healthy!

Toodles for now.

 

 

 

Personal Manifesto

I believe that writing something down makes it real. It takes it from the realms of abstract and places it firmly in the here and now. So I decided to write down my personal manifesto and put it out into the world.

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Physically writing this down really reaffirmed what I believe in and the things I need to do more of to keep myself happy and positive. In the past I have taken life way too seriously and not given myself time to enjoy the fun, simple and beautiful things. This list very much focuses on me and loving myself. I am working on putting myself first because then I will be in a happy positive state to help others. There are so many other things I could add to this list but I will leave them for another day.

Maybe try writing your own manifesto, I would love to read it 🙂

Loving Myself

At the beginning of the summer I decided to treat myself by buying Gala Darling’s Radical Self Love Bible School. It’s a wonderful 12 week course that helps you create an art journal bursting with positivity. Each week you get an email with prompts for your bible which you can expand on and play around with however you want. You can also work though the course at your own pace, meaning there’s no pressure.

I have not always loved myself. During the first few months of this year I was pretty harsh on myself. I was not happy on the course I was on, I wasn’t happy with how I was acting, I spent day’s locked in my room alone. I was eating terribly and gained some weight. I wasn’t looking after myself at all. I slowly realised with the help of my family and friends that I could escape this hole of doom I had been slowly sinking into.

I made the decision to change course (which I have written about here) and from that moment on I started climbing out. I knew that moving out of halls would help massively because although I loved my flatmates with all my heart, I had created a room full of negative energy and I needed out. So I decided to sign up for the course at the same time as I moved into my new house. A fresh new start meant I could start loving myself again.

Although I haven’t done as much of my Radical Self Love Bible as I would have liked to by this point I am still happy with it. I have been out have been out having fun with friends a lot, which is an equally positive way to spend my time.

I want to share some of the pages from my bible with you- I hope you enjoy them and they inspire you to get creative and love yourself!

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My cover page. I am so in love with this hot pink glitter glue, I need to get more soon! Pretty much all of my collages are made using pages from Company Magazine.

SONY DSC“I dedicate this book to fun! Life is full of joy, excitement and adventures. Being silly, having a blast and not caring what other people think= rad!!!”

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“Sad to Rad. Things to do to turn that frown upside down: ❤ Bake a microwave mug cake ❤ Go for a walk ❤ Listen to “My Rollercoaster” ❤ Put on a pretty colourful dress ❤ Wear cat ears ❤ Hang out with some ducks ❤ Take a long shower then cover yourself in lovely body butter”

SONY DSCThis page is about my greatest love affair! “Pink! (is my favourite crayon) My love affair with the colour pink started just before prom when I accidentally dyed my hair pink. Turns out I love it pink. Since then I have never looked back. Pink is such a happy, positive colour. It’s passion, love, fun & excitement. I feel like myself with pink hair, my true self. One of my favourite things about pink hair is the reactions people have to it, mainly young children- it brings them so much joy!”

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What style means to me. “Style to me is all about expressing myself. I love to wear 50’s style dresses with odd little touches like cat necklaces and skulls on everything. I love the juxtapositions of my personal style- vintage, feminine, floral dresses contrasted with skulls and tattoos. I love my pink and blue mermaid locks and they never fail to give my confidence. I put no boundaries on myself and dress to make me happy. It’s amazing what a dress and some lippy can do!”

I hope you enjoyed seeing inside my ongoing Radical Self Love Bible. I will update you when I have worked on it a bit more. Shout out to my lovely mum because I used a blanket she crocheted out of my baby clothes as a backdrop for these photos. Here’s a link to her craft blog: Purple Rose Emporium.

Toodles for now!